Why I will not wear cowboy boots to SXSW

Yes, I own a cattle ranch. I am out standing in my field. But I will not wear cowboy boots to SXSW.

See, we have cattle, but no horses. We're ranchers, but not rodeo-ers. I don't even own a cowboy hat or cowboy boots.

There are plenty of folks here-abouts who live and breathe being a cowboy. It's the most natural thing in the world to them. The guys who park their stock trailer outside the cafe, and wear their spurs everywhere they go. That's my brother in law, for example. I get that.

That's not me. 

The city folk at SXSW are having a great time. They are visiting, and Texas is like a whole other country. Dressing up in boots and hats is fun. I get that.

That's not me either.

My husband does much more than I do at the ranch, but I help haul hay, pull windmills, feed cattle in snow storms, and fix fence. My work boots are more like hiking boots than ropers, and they get plenty of use. I've been doing this for a long time, not quite all my life.

It's not my whole life. It is part of who I am.

That's why I don't wear cowboy boots: I recognize that it's only one part of me. In a way, I don't really qualify as a cowgirl by local standards, and in a way, I don't want to be stuck in such a rigid definition of who I am. I'm too far away to wear that kind of cowboy gear like I mean it, and too close to consider it fashionable.

So forgive me for laughing at your cute new cowboy hat and boots; they're not very practical. I'll stick with my work boots. 

Photo by Rebekah Workman, used with permission.

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A boat ride at twilight in London

Our London bus tour included a boat ride in the ticket price. We were so busy at the British Museum, that it was late before we got down to the docks near Westminster Bridge. As it turns out, this was the best choice we could have made: we got a twilight boat ride on the Thames. Two rides in fact, because we rode down to Tower Bridge and back. It was freezing, but beautiful.

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My passport is filling up

I need to send it off and get more pages added. This is a wonderful problem to have.

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The Collect

I used to belong to the Business and Professional Women, from 1990 until the national organization folded its membership arm last year.

We opened or closed each meeting with a Collect, written by Mary Stewart. I still remember it, and I want to share it with some comments.

Keep us, O God, from pettiness.
Let us be large in thought, in word, in deed.

We could use more large thinking, less pettiness, in our dealings.

Let us be done with fault finding
and leave off self seeking.

Neither is helpful, but we still engage in them.

May we put away all pretense

No one really believes our pretenses, anyway.

and meet each other face to face,
without self-pity and without prejudice.

We usually bring too much of both to our interactions.

May we never be hasty in judgment and always generous.

I think is a reminder to be generous in how we think of others, in how we judge them.

Let us take time for all things.

In an age when we are all too busy all the time, this seems like an order to try to do it all. But I think it's really an encouragement to focus. To take time for the things we do.

Make us to grow calm, serene, gentle.

Since you know me, you know that's not a description of me. But it's a good idea. We should all be more calm, serene even. And a bit more gentle treatment of each other would be welcome.

Teach us to put into action our better impulses,
Straightforward and unafraid.

Note that this is a call to action, not more planning and thinking. And I take "straightforward and unafraid" as my personal motto, practically. Ask my Mom.

Grant that we may realize,
It is the little things that create differences;
That in the big things of life, we are at one.

How often do we get upset about the little things? What are we really missing then?

And may we strive to touch and to know
The great common human heart of us all.

We all have love, pain, joy. When we forget that, we can do real damage.

And O Lord God, let us forget not to be kind.

We almost forgot, didn't we?

This was written in 1904, as "women working together with wide interest for large ends was a new thing under the sun, and ... perhaps they had need for special petition and mediation of their own." Mary Stewart's own words, there.

Does it seem outdated? Too sweet and mushy? Well, I'll take a little nostalgia here.


The photo is of our Alva BPW reunion, around 2000.
Back row: Past President Louise Prigmore, visitors Karen Miller and State President Lois Sharpton from Stillwater, Past President Louise Murray, Past President Jean Petermann (then a resident of Woodward), Lois Stanaway (who went on to be local president), District Director Lucinda Ray of Guymon,
Seated: Past President Becky McCray, Ola Mae Hendricks (my grandmother), Past President Roberta Petermann.
Floor: Past President Glenna Mae Hendricks (my mother), and Connie Foote (my sister).

The Women's Institute of Prince Edward Island has an excellent History of Mary Stewart Collect, and the Warren Junior Women’s League/GFWC shares The Story of Mary Stewart’s Collect (as told by Mary Stewart).

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A funeral slide show like fireworks

My husband went to the funeral of a life-long friend. He watched the photo slide show of the life of this man, not quite 50.

Later he said to me that he wants to live a life so his funeral slide show is exciting; something people watch like fireworks. "Ooooo!" "Ahhhh!"

Just something to keep in mind.

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